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The Importance of Learning How to Stay Centered in a Stressful, Highly Emotionally Charged World

By Judith Orloff

Adapted from Dr. Judith Orloff`s new book Emotional Freedom: Liberate Yourself From Negative Emotions and Transform Your Life ” (Harmony Books, 2009)

In my new book Emotional Freedom, I emphasize the importance of learning how to stay centered in a stressful, highly emotionally charged world. Since emotions such as fear, anger, and frustration are energies, you can potentially catch them from people without realizing it. If you tend to be an emotional sponge, it`s vital to know how to avoid taking on an individual`s negative emotions or the free-floating kind in crowds. Another twist is that chronic anxiety, depression, or stress can turn you into an emotional sponge by wearing down your defenses. Suddenly, you become hyper-attuned to others, especially those with similar pain. That`s how empathy works; we zero in on hot-button issues that are unresolved in ourselves. From an energetic standpoint, negative emotions can originate from several sources. What you`re feeling may be your own; it may be someone else`s; or it may be a combination. I`ll explain how to tell the difference and strategically bolster positive emotions so you don`t shoulder negativity that doesn`t belong to you.

This wasn`t something I always knew how to do. Growing up, my girlfriends couldn`t wait to hit the shopping malls and go to parties, the bigger the better–but I didn`t share their excitement. I always felt overwhelmed, exhausted around large groups of people, though I was clueless why. “What`s the matter with you?” friends would say, shooting me the weirdest looks. All I knew was that crowded places and I just didn`t mix. I`d go there feeling just fine but leave nervous, depressed, or with some horrible new ache or pain. Unsuspectingly, I was a gigantic sponge, absorbing the emotions of people around me.

With my patients, I`ve also seen how absorbing other people`s emotions can trigger panic attacks, depression, food, sex and drug binges, and a plethora of physical symptoms that defy traditional medical diagnosis. The Centers for Disease Control and Prevention report that more than two million Americans suffer from chronic fatigue. It`s likely that many of them are emotional sponges.

Here are some strategies from Emotional Freedom to practice. They will help you to stop absorbing other people`s emotions.

Emotional Action Step: How To Stay Centered In A Stressful World

To detach from other people`s negative emotions:

* First, ask yourself: Is the feeling mine or someone else`s? It could be both. If the emotion such as fear or anger is yours, gently confront what`s causing it on your own or with professional help. If not, try to pinpoint the obvious generator. For instance, if you`ve just watched a comedy, yet you came home from the movie theater feeling blue, you may have incorporated the depression of the people sitting beside you; in close proximity, energy fields overlap. The same is true with going to a mall or packed concert.

* When possible, distance yourself from the suspected source. Move at least twenty feet away; see if you feel relief. Don`t err on the side of not wanting to offend strangers. In a public place, don`t hesitate to change seats if you feel a sense of depression imposing on you.

* For a few minutes, center yourself by concentrating on your breath: This connects you to your essence. Keep exhaling negativity, inhaling calm. This helps to ground yourself and purify fear or other difficult emotions Visualize negativity as gray fog lifting from your body, and hope as golden light entering. This can yield quick results.

* Negative emotions such as fear frequently lodge in your emotional center at the solar plexus. Place your palm there as you keep sending loving-kindness to that area to flush stress out. For longstanding depression or anxiety, use this method daily to strengthen this center. It`s comforting and builds a sense of safety and optimism.

* Shield yourself. A handy form of protection many people use, including healers with trying patients, involves visualizing an envelope of white light (or any color you feel imparts power) around your entire body. Think of it as a shield that blocks out negativity or physical discomfort but allows what`s positive to filter in.

* Look for positive people and situations. Call a friend who sees the good in others. Spend time with a colleague who affirms the bright side of things. Listen to hopeful people. Hear the faith they have in themselves and others. Also relish hopeful words, songs, and art forms. Hope is contagious and it will lift your mood.

Keep practicing these strategies. You don`t have to reinvent the wheel each time you`re on emotional overload. With strategies to cope, you can have quicker retorts to stressful situations, feel safer, and your sensitivities can blossom.

Watch video on How to Stop Absorbing Energy from Others at http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Oyap0KBouP0&feature=related

About Judith Orloff MD
Judith Orloff MD is the author of the New York Times bestseller Emotional Freedom: Liberate Yourself From Negative Emotions and Transform Your Life (Three Rivers Press, 2011) now available in paperback and upon which this article is based. Her work has been featured on The Today Show, CNN, the Oprah Magazine and USA Today. Dr. Orloff synthesizes the pearls of traditional medicine with cutting edge knowledge of intuition and energy medicine. An Assistant Clinical Professor of Psychiatry at UCLA, she passionately believes that the future of medicine involves integrating all this wisdom to achieve emotional freedom and total wellness. For more inspiration visit www.drjudithorloff.com. Buy Emotional Freedom and receive hundreds of bonus gifts at www.drjudithorloff.com/emotional-freedom-paperback/

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